Feline Hospice for Violet

by | Apr 26, 2015 | Nedda's Animal Family | 2 comments

Violet, April 25, 2015 – Still Glowing.

Tips to Share, with Violet’s Approval.

by Nedda Wittels, Copyright.

Yesterday was a fasting day for Violet, but this time she seems a bit stronger than the first time she fasted more than 4 weeks ago.

The photo is from early in the morning.   We’re all early risers around here, so I had to use the flash, which caused the infamous “red eye.”  The “red eye remover” has made her right eye look blind, but her eyes are really a lovely crystaline blue.  Her left eye is nearly closed because of the lamp that was on that side of her.

The glow is all Violet.  She really is glowing with radiant Light.


If you look right above Violet’s head, you can see some black plastic.  Hospice care requires a bit of planning re: urinary and other “accidents.”  So underneath the soft throw on which Violet is sitting is part of a large plastic leaf bag I’ve cut up and put there to protect the chair.  The pillow behind her is also encased in a large plastic bag and covered with a normal pillowcase.

I refuse to confine Violet.  She would be furious and miserable, and so would Starlight and Sakhara.  And it’s not necessary, with a few precautions.  Besides, she’s still able to get around, although slowly.  We wants to remain part of the family, and of course, I would never deny her that.

Violet is still quite capable of getting to the litter box and getting into the box, too.  She doesn’t have any arthritic problems, so she can easily climb into and out of the litter box.  And at least for now — until she becomes too weak to get there on her own in some later stage of this process.

The other day, she was in the chair in the photo all day, not moving once, although she ate whenever I placed a bowl of raw pureed chicken liver under her nose.  I thought about taking her to the litter box, but she insisted this was unnecessary.  DIGNITY!!

With the elderly, dignity is very important and to be respected.  Still, it turns out I should have insisted, because by the time she decided she really needed to pee, she only made it half-way there.  Smart Violet.  She figured out she couldn’t make it and used the cat bed.  This is far better than cat urine all over the floor, in my opinion.

So I began negotiations with her.

Nedda:  “Violet, I would like to take you to the litter box a few times a day and encourage you to pee.”

Violet:  “No.”

Nedda:  “Violet, I don’t care that you used the cat bed, but I can feel that you’re a bit embarrassed about that.” [I received special permission to talk about this in this post.]   “I want you to be comfortable.  I just want to help.”

Violet:  [Stoney silence.]

Nedda:  “Look, if I put you into the litter box and you don’t need to use it, that’s fine.  On the other hand, if you’ve been sitting a long time and aren’t fully in your body, it might be helpful for me to take you to the box.  That’s all I’m saying.  I just want to help.”

Violet:  [Reluctantly]  “Hm.  Well, I guess that’s ok.”

Nedda:  “Thank you.”

Everything is a negotiation, these days.  Knowing Violet as I do, I suspect that she’s cooperating more with me than she normally would because I agreed to consult her on everything and to let her do this whole event her own way.  That’s Violet, for sure!

So immediately after the above conversation, I carried her to the box, and she urinated a considerable quantity.  She wasn’t at all embarrassed, either.

If you have an elderly cat who has some arthritis and you’re concerned about the cat having difficulty accessing the box, here are some alternatives you and your cat might find helpful.

1- One of my clients recently discovered a litter box for ferrets where one side has a 3″ entrance, which is lower than the sides on most of the cat boxes available.  An elderly arthritic cat might find this box just perfect.

2- Very low baking pans and even cookie sheets can be used for cats who can’t climb into litter boxes anymore.  You can put a large cardboard box around them to handle any litter than flies about.  You can also use wee-wee pads covered in litter so the pan isn’t slippery.

3- Here’s a website that shows how to create a litter box with a low, narrow entrance and very high sides.  This was recommended to me by one my clients who created one for her cat who loves to splash litter about.  Since you can create the opening any height you and your cat prefer, this might be the perfect solution for you.

If you find that plastic bags are too slippery to put under a throw (remember, an elderly cat needs stability), try a “Solid Grip Easy Shelf Liner” .  When you first open it, it has a terrible smell, but you can cut it to the sizes you need and wash it in a washing machine in cold water and laundry soap.  Hang it up to air dry and the odor will be nearly gone.  Because it’s not at all slippery and is washable, you might find it the perfect solution for keeping things dry under your elder cat.

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As you can see from the photo, I’ve even lined the cat cave with a plastic bag.  It can be challenging to find just the correct size cardboard box to please my cats.  This one is large enough for Violet to have a visitor and has been in use for a long time.  Wee-wee pads are less slippery and can be very helpful at this stage.

Sakhara, who’s the largest of the three cats, will frequently be found curled up with Violet in the cave..  Because it “smells like home” to them, I’m doing my best to keep it around as long as possible.

One other option to maintain dryness is some of the smaller bath mats that are washable and have a water-proof and no-skid backing.  I have lots of those around, and they’re great.  If something spills, the mat absorbs it without leaking, and then goes right into the washing machine.  The ones I have also go into the dryer and come out clean and fluffy.


Since cats in hospice will lose weight and become rather boney, and also because many do have some arthritic issues, getting the bed soft enough and keeping them comfortable really matters.

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My cats have a variety of beds to choose from all over the house.  Some are much firmer than others, and each cat has her own preferences.  For elder care, I wanted something comfy and protective of their joints.

The orthopedic foam you see in this photo was advertised as a “dog” product, but it works fine for cats, too.  The cover you see is what came with it.  I use another cover on top of this one that’s even softer.

When brand new, I put the smelly foam in my dryer at a setting called “Fluff Dry” so that there was no heat.  To my amazement, that cycle eliminated the odor completely.  The cover that came with it is machine washable.

I never buy anything for my cats that’s can’t be washed or otherwise safely descented.  Off-gassing of chemicals is as bad for animals as it is for us, and their noses have 10,000 times the scent receptors of our noses, so I figure if I can’t stand the smell, it will be worse for them.



Here’s Violet enjoying her living room chair.  I put a hassock in front of it so that it’s a bit easier for her to get up and down.  She spends part of many nights and days here, and then other times retreats to her cave.  Her cave had been on another hassock, but now it’s on some old blankets about 3 inches above the floor, mostly for insulation purposes.  Violet was quite annoyed when I put the cat cave lower down, but I insisted that I didn’t want her falling in the night when I was asleep.

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Wishing for a laugh or a lighter side as you read all this?   When doing hospice for our animals, we need some levity, and Starlight is happy to provide it.

Starlight in her basket.

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  1. AnneMarie

    I like to read these messages about Violet. One of my horses, Tachat, is suffering really badly from his haltstring. He is only 19 yrs old but he gets open wounds on 3 of his 4 legs now, where lymphatic fluid breaks through the skin. I try to keep it all clean and supple but he is having more and more difficulty to walk. On top of that the insects are finding an easy prey in him, I hate them for it as it seems they are all biting him to bits!
    I know Tachat is in the final stage of his invalidity problem but it is hard for me to take the decision to have him put down. But it is equally hard to see him suffer, he can hardly walk anymore…
    Your messages give me strength to hold on just a bit more till, I hope, he will give me the sign that his time has come…
    Thank you!

    • Nedda

      Hi, AnneMarie,

      Sorry to hear about Tachat. He is clearly having some serious challenges and you are doing everything you can to help him.

      Have you considered asking an Animal Communicator to speak with him? He may have some things to say that will make it easier for you. That’s why I love to speak with animals – they are often full of wisdom and insights that help us humans understand a higher perspective.

      Blessings to you both.


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