Starlight and Violet enjoying each other’s company.

An early English author, Samuel Richardson, wrote a novel called Pamela, or Virtue Rewarded in the late 17th century in the form of a young girl’s diary.  One of the critiques of this novel was that, if Pamela had time to write all this detail in her diary, she would not have had time to live it.

I face that very same issue with Starlight and her integration into our household.  I had time to live it, but not to write it all down.  Even if time were not so compressed that we are living what feels like 10 years of “stuff” each day, including taking care of daily needs and multiple crises, I still would have had insufficient time to keep a diary of all that has transpired.

So I ask you to forgive this abbreviated version of what has transpired with Starlight, Sakhara, and Violet.

In our last episode, Starlight moved downstairs with the express permission and agreement of Sakhara and Violet.  It soon became clear that we could only keep her confined at night, so during the day Sakhara would retreat upstairs and Violet and I would “manage” (ha, ha) on our own.

It was hard to get Starlight to bed each evening.  She didn’t want to be alone and my heart hurt to confine her.  Basically, I was waiting for Violet to give permission for me to allow Starlight to come to bed with us.  I knew that Violet had to be the one who decided because if I rushed this stage of the integration, I stood a very good chance of losing Violet’s cooperation.

Fortunately, it took only a few days (can’t remember exactly how many, but no more than 3 and possibly fewer), and Violet agreed that Starlight could sleep with us.  The first night, I put Starlight to bed, but left the door to her room ajar so she could decide what she wanted to do.  She stayed in her room (the dangers of operant conditioning).  So the next night, I took her upstairs with us.

The joy and relief in Starlight’s face and body were enormous.  I made sure that Violet could sleep in her favorite spot (down by my feet under the covers) and I kept Starlight in my arms, literally making a little “bed” for her to cuddle up and curl herself into.   We all settled in and slept fairly well.

A few days later, I restored the cat meditation room to it’s original condition, with the exception of leaving a 3rd litter box in there, as the downstairs bathroom is just too small for 3 boxes.   There’s a 4th box upstairs, and for a while no one used it, but now, it too, is being used.  Violet and Sakhara had been happy with just 2 boxes, but with Starlight here, we really need all 4.

Since giving Starlight full run of the house, Sakhara has begun playing with her.  Sakhara’s approach was her own unique system.  Once Sakhara established herself as “Top” cat (by growling and swatting and refusing to be drawn into the kitten’s play), Sakhara began playing with Starlight.  It fascinates me how this  worked.

Starlight had to show submission by turning over onto her back and exposing her belly.  Once she started doing that, Sakhara began to play.

Now, Starlight tries to swat Sakhara, but also lies down on her back, paws in the air tapping Sakhara’s face.  Sakhara growls and swats, but no longer runs away.  Starlight swats back and then joyfully jumps on Sakhara.  Sakhara growls and knocks her off.  Starlight backs up and comes back for more.  Sakhara may or may not run, but both seem to enjoy this interaction.

Violet has been having a more difficult time, actually.  Violet is a lady – dignified and grand.  She doesn’t like Starlight to jump on her, and Violet’s vocalizations are a combination scream and growl.

Violet often just runs, and Starlight chases, but then Violet gets into the run and chase and it becomes a game – at times.  Sometimes I see a smile on Violet’s face as this interaction gets going.

I keep reminding Violet that Starlight will be taller and heavier than Violet when Starlight reaches her full size.  I encourage her to sit on this kitten before she becomes too big.  But that’s not Violet’s way, and I have to accept that.

The only time I interfere, and I don’t do it very often, is when Violet is on my lap and Starlight goes after Violet’s tail.  I only do this on the bed, not downstairs.  I have taken this perogative because I consider that my time to say “good morning” or “good night” to Violet and Starlight has to learn to give me MY space to do this.

Otherwise, my role in all this is just to stay out of it.  No one is being hurt, and everyone is adjusting.  Occasionally, everyone sleeps together, but more often each cat sleeps alone, or Violet and Sakhara cuddle up together as they always have.

As of today, Starlight is 19 weeks old (about 4 and a half months) and weighs over 4 pounds and growing.  She’s a very big girl with big feet – huge toes and tiny claws that are hard to fine to clip, although they are sharper than needles and need regular attention.  She eats enough for 2 adult cats most days.  She plays hard.  She’s starting to climb the screens, so I’m going to take down the ones she can reach.  I hope by spring she’ll be past this climbing stage.

Some feline feedback:

Sakhara

SAKHARA

Starlight is doing really well, but I despair of her ever being fully grounded.  Still, she’s come a very long way.

She’s so sweet, and she’s fun, and she has brought just the right combination of energies into our home.  Violet and I have agreed that she’s too young to do very much energy work with us, but sometimes she does try to help us support Nedda.

Overall, I’m glad she’s here.

Violet

VIOLET

Starlight is amazing and wonderful.  She keeps challenging me and sometimes I enjoy her and other times she pushes my buttons so I’m getting to clear up old stuff to be ready for our whole family moving into the 5th and higher dimensions.

Nedda is being smart not to try to “fix” anything.  We each are growing, healing, and expanding our consciousness.  It’s a personal choice for each one of us.

Starlight

STARLIGHT

I just love being here.  I have the best family – they have been so patient with me.  I’m having a fantastic time.  The food is great and I get to eat as much as I like.  My only wish is that Violet and Sakhara would play with me more.  Sometimes I get a bit bored, but then Nedda steps in and we play.

It’s been hard not to immediately be accepted, but that’s ok because I know each one was doing her best to adjust to my arrival.  It can be a challenge to carry to so much Love and Light because others don’t know what to do with it.  At least in this family I didn’t have to deal with jealousy.  I was told before I came that many humans who carry Light have to deal with that, but that I would not have to.

So I’m having a ball!!  I’m really grateful to have this wonderful family and I want to help out, but Violet and Sakhara sometimes tell me to just be a kitten and enjoy that for a bit longer.

I had fun talking to the students in Nedda’s TWA class a few weeks ago.  I want to do more of THAT!!

The story continues in:  A Reincarnation Adventure Part 13:  What I Learned