Are You Living on Autopilot?

by | May 20, 2015 | Food for Thought | 12 comments

Who’s at the controls?

  Take charge of your
thoughts and feelings.

You’re going along having a pretty good day.  You’re feeling good about yourself and life in general.

Suddenly, something unexpected happens, and your whole mood shifts.

Your first thoughts may be to blame the external event for ruining your day.  That’s how most of us react, but the truth is actually quite different.

Mood shifts actually happen because of

how you assign meaning

to events in your life.

When your thoughts become negative,

you start to feel negative emotions.


“Oops.  I was feeling great a moment ago and now I’m down in the dumps.  My day is ruined.”

Well, guess what?  You day doesn’t have to be “ruined.”  It’s only “ruined” if you decide that it is.

If I were to ask you what changed your mood, you’d probably tell me all about what just happened.  In other words, you’d blame something or someone outside of yourself.  But the truth is that you do have control over what you think and what you feel.

Take back control of your thoughts and feelings.

When you notice that your mood has shifted, use these steps as soon as you can to restore your happier state.

First, notice that your mood has shifted. 

Then ask and answer these questions.

  1. What just happened that I’m blaming for my change in mood?

  2. What were my thoughts about this event?

  3. Can I step out of judgment and think differently about the event?

  4. Can I open to the possibility that there will be a different outcome than I first imagined?

  5. Can I set the intention that there WILL be a different outcome – a WIN/WIN for all concerned?

  6. Can I turn the whole thing over to a higher power (God, the Universe, my I Am Presence) and trust that my request for a positive solution for all with be answered?


Your answers to these questions will lead to some important discoveries.

  1. When you shift your thoughts, your feelings will shift, too.

  2. You are in charge of what you think.  You have choices.

  3. You are in charge of what you feel.

  4. Underneath your emotions, whatever they were, was some underlying fear that was triggered, and you don’t have to allow the fear to control you.

  5. The thought patterns that were evoked are habits of thinking.  Habits can be changed.

  6. When you take back your power over your thoughts and feelings, you feel more empowered in other parts of your life.

Be the awake and alert pilot of your life.Be the awake and alert
pilot of your life.

In the beginning, it may take you several days to do this for just one event.  It depends on how quickly you remember to take action after the trigger event occurred.

Over time, if you continue to do change your thoughts about events,  you’ll be able to do change them sooner and faster.

It won’t take long until you can change your thoughts immediately after something happens.

Ultimately, your goal is to

spontaneously stay in charge of yourself. 

Ultimately, when a trigger event occurs, instead of reacting on autopilot, you’ll stop yourself immediately and create positive thoughts immediately.

You’ll stop blaming others and events for how your feel.  You’ll feel better about yourself and your life because you’ll be more in charge of yourself.

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  1. Doug Hagens

    I really like this topic. It happens to be on my mind today. Until now, I felt pretty good recognizing energy shifts coming down the pike. So I would breathe my way back to center at the onset. I can do better. It is possible I think to engineer and create energies to spec we want to embody. It’s not necessary to only set the intention; we can consciously create to order any feeling/energy/frequency we want with practice. I feel empowered all of a sudden!!

    • Nedda

      I do believe we are creators. One way we create is through intention. Intention is so powerful that just by setting one you create whatever you intend to be so.

  2. Doug Hagens

    PS who reads the comments to your blog?

    • Nedda

      Well, I don’t know, exactly. I read them. And I think other people do, too, as sometimes they respond to other comments.

  3. Doug Hagens

    You’re right of course about the power of intention. I’m on autopilot so much that it is not until after the fact that I become aware of what I just created!

    • Nedda

      And that’s the point of this post – we’re all on autopilot to varying degrees and we can do something about it!

  4. Doug Hagens

    Spontaneously staying in charge of ourselves, in every time, in every place — YES! YES! YES!

  5. Doug Hagens

    It seems “spontaneously being in charge of ourselves” is the same as spontaneously creating an energy of freedom, freedom to love being who we are — whatever that may be.

  6. Crystal

    This topic opened my eyes to a crucial step in this process: picturing a POSITIVE outcome somehow, for what seems a deep rut of repetition.
    Sometimes I bug myself when I’m gardening, which should be joyful, because I start going over some frustrating person or situation in my life which is just stuck–something which never improves. The flowers and fairies don’t deserve my rant, and it doesn’t go anywhere! Yet it seems to be a habit of mine, as I pull weeds or plant pots.
    I always realize I’m doing it, it feels toxic, and I always try to think of actions I can take to improve the scenarios. But the missing step has been picturing a happy change, the highest healing good.
    If I give that portion back to nature, I can utilize the helpers who are already there, ready to make my world better, in ways I just can’t think of.
    Wondering why this happens in my garden, I am realizing my helpers were right at my elbow–I just needed to make that positive request, as a last step, to them.
    Thanks for waking me up, Nedda!

    • Nedda

      You’re very welcome, Crystal. Sometimes we read just the “right” thing at the “right” moment, and it shifts us.

      Years ago I read a story about a man who had a lot of anger. One day, a so-called “wise man” told him to dig a hole and shout all his anger into the hole, and then cover it up. The next time the man passed the spot where he had dug the hole, he saw tall grasses growing there and thought that all was well … until the wind started to blow. Then the man could hear all his anger in the sound made by the grasses moving in the wind.

      This is one of the reasons why I question when someone says, “give your feelings to the Earth.” My sense is that we have to heal our feelings inside ourselves, and take responsibility for them, not just pass them on to someone else to resolve. As we move higher vibrationally, we learn that we can transmute these denser emotions ourselves by stepping out of judgment and calling on forgiveness.

      Besides, it seems to me that the Earth has enough toxicity to deal with these days.

  7. Doug Hagens

    The last 24 hrs were challenging for me. It started off with feeling taken advantage of and ended up with the possibility of no retirement income. The feeling and thought bad changed its shape many times during the last 24 hours. In the end I did not want to get up in the morning not knowing why. What helped me was seeing the linear progression. Then I asked I AM Presence to take care of it. Suddenly feeling good again!

    • Nedda

      In my experience, Doug, these challenges are how we teach ourselves to shift to a higher perspective. When we do that, we will always be taken care of because we open ourselves to receive all that we need. Perhaps that’s part of what this is about for you.

      If you journal conversations with your I Am Presence, you might ask what this situation is all about for you. The answer could be very powerful.


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