Heart Centered Living – Challenge #1

by | Oct 15, 2009 | Heart Centered Living | 4 comments

 

OTHER PEOPLE

 

When I was growing up, I had two younger sisters.  Like all families with more than 1 child, establishing blame was a central part of life.  “Who started the fight?” my mother always wanted to know.  “Who left the refrigerator door open?”   “Who was supposed to set the table?”  The search for assigning blame (responsiblity) went on and on.

As we are growing up, we are  taught that the way to solve a problem is to figure out who is to blame for it.  I, personally, have not found this to be a very productive way to achieve solutions.  When we seek to establish blame, what we are often seeking is to assign responsibility and then follow that with punishment, shaming the person(s), and making ourselves feel better because we don’t have to take responsibility for participating in whatever happened.

Our entire culture is set up this way – the law, the schools, the family interactions.

What if this approach is entirely misguided, misleading, and unproductive?  What if we need to throw away this paradym and establish a new one?  What would you put in it’s place?

 

A NEW PERSPECTIVE

Spirituality and modern science are telling us the same thing:  everything that we think is outside of our physical bodies actually is a reflection of our inner world – of our belief systems, thoughts, expectations, and emotions.

If this is true, and there is more and more evidence that this is exactly how things actually work, then it is impossible for us to witness any event without being a creator/participant in that event.  It is impossible to interact with others without affecting the outcome of the interaction as well as the qualitative flavor, style, and content of the interaction.

For example, if the people around you are “negative,” then you are being shown a reflection of some negativity that is within you.  If the people around you are joyful, they are reflecting your inner joy.

The bottom line is, the only person on this planet that you can change is YOURSELF.  Therefore, if you have decided that those around you need to change, you had best look inside yourself and make the changes you want to see in them.  Unless and until you make those changes, you will experience the same reflection over and over again.

 

CHANGE YOURSELF TO CHANGE THE REFLECTION

This DOES NOT mean that you have to keep yourself in a space with people who are constantly putting you down, treating you badly, abusing you, or anything of the kind. 

This DOES mean that, if you want to stop patterns of mistreatment that you are receiving, you have to make a commitment to yourself to treat yourself better.  That may include changing where you live, your job, and, MOST IMPORTANT of all, beginning a process of changing how you feel about yourself and what you believe about yourself and the world you see reflected outside of you.

To move into Heart Centered Living means:

 I am willing to take responsibility for my participation
in creating my life and everything in it. 

If you are unhappy with how you look in a mirror, you can throw out the mirror and get a new one, but guess what?  The reflection will be the same.  Only when you change yourself will you see a new reflection.

Namaste,
Nedda 

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4 Comments

  1. Doug Hagens

    Hi Nedda
    I have been asking recently what Divine Love is. What I got was that “from this love comes the utmost respect and reverence for the path of all living things”. So I figure to get there from here is to first apply it to my own path. It came apparent today (at the beach) that my path is everything I think, feel, say and do: good when I feel complete and immersed in love or bad when out of sorts, distressed or in a state of fear. Extending this principle to everyone and everything including trees, the ocean and the sky becomes now easier for me. It is also further enables me to live in a state unconditional acceptance. What do you think? Am I on the right track? Comments?

    Doug

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  2. Nedda

    Dear Doug,

    Yes, I do think you are “getting it” – i.e., the understanding of Divine Love is beginning to percolate through your beingness.

    Divine Love makes no judgments. There is no “good” or “bad” when it comes to Divine Love. It is unconditional, limitless, eternal, complete within itself, and the most powerful force in the universe. When you have “the utmost respect and reverence for the path of all living things” you are completely in a state of internal harmony, and when you are in harmony inside, you are also radiating harmony outside.

    BTW – I “love” the definition you received from your Higher Self. May I share it with others?

    Namaste,
    Nedda

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    • Doug Hagens

      Absolutely,

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    • Doug Hagens

      Nedda

      Asking for my permission to use something from my Higher Self, puts things in a different light regarding my sources. The definition I gave you of Divine Love comes from a book I had been reading THE STARFLEET MESSAGES A Guide to Spiritual Expansion by Catherine Richardson. I view much of what is written in this book coming from IAM and so is free and available to the universe, yet I feel I must “give my sources”.

      Doug

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