If it is true that everything we see, hear, and experience in the world around us is a reflection of our inner world, then to heal the world around us we must begin with healing our self.  Now you may not agree with my assumption, but consider. 

How many times have you found yourself with someone who irritates you intensely?  Every one of us has “buttons” that other people seem to push.  It may be a parent or other family member, a colleague or even supervisor at work, someone in our car pool, or even someone who “hangs out” where we hang out.  It doesn’t matter who this person is or where we come into contact with him/her.  The fact is, if you find the person irritating, infuriating, or just plan annoying, it is time to ask yourself, “What is it in me that this person is reflecting?”  Why am I drawing this situation into my life?

At first you might resist and hear a voice in your head respond, “I’m not doing anything.  I just don’t like him/her.”  Or you might hear, “That person is impossible.  S/he has to change, not me.”

Have you ever considered that the reason you find the person’s behaviors, attitudes, whatever to be so obnoxious and uncomfortable is that s/he is reflecting back to you some aspect of your self that you do not love?

The first step to getting rid of this situation is to open your Heart Center. 

·         Take 3 deep, relaxing breaths.

·         Shift your attention to the middle of your chest where the Heart Center is located. 

·         Imagine a beautiful flower there.  See it in your mind. 

·         Imagine the flower opening to its fullest potential.  See it open.  Smell its incredible fragrance.

Now ask yourself some questions and write down whatever pops into your head.

·         Ask yourself,  “How is [insert name] a reflection of some aspect of me?”

·         Listen to what you hear without making a judgment about it.

·         Write down whatever comes to mind.  Write down the denials and write down the “ahha” insights.

·         Ask yourself, “Was there some time in my life when I behaved the way [insert name] behaves?”

·         Don’t be embarrassed if you hear a quiet “yes.” 

·         Write down whatever you remember about that circumstance.  Perhaps you were a child or teenager at the time.  Even if this was 50 years ago, it’s still a part of you at some level.

Maintaining non-judgment and allowing detachment, look back at that time.

·         Allow yourself to feel compassion for the younger you,

·         Forgive yourself.  Repeat at least 3 times, “I forgive myself.  I forgive myself.  I forgive myself.”

·         Allow yourself to move out of judgment towards your younger self.

·         Imagine yourself embracing your younger self – putting your arms around him/her.

·         Offer her/him love without conditions.  Repeat at least 3 times, “I love you.  I love you.  I love you.  I love myself.  I love myself.  I love myself.”

When you heal this part of yourself, the people outside you will either stop doing the thing you dislike so much or, even if they continue, it will no longer be an issue for you.  Your button will be disconnected and you will have experienced a Heart-level healing.

On the website of Joe Vitale is a powerful and true story of a therapist who recognized that all his patients are a reflection of his inner beliefs.  He learned to heal his patients by healing himself.  I encourage you to visit this link and read about it.  It can change your life. 

http://www.mrfire.com/article-archives/new-articles/worlds-most-unusual-therapist.html

Nedda