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Spiritual Empowerment

achieving self-empowerment:
Moving Beyond Illusion
by Nedda Wittels

What we experience in the world outside is a reflection of our inner state.

As above, so below.  As within, so outside, also.

The world reflects my inner self in every situation.



"Why is this happening to me?" we ask, plaintively, as if we had nothing at all to do with it.  We live in a society in which we are encouraged to blame others for nearly everything.  It is isn't our parents' fault, it must be someone else's.  Sometimes, though, it is best to take a look into a mirror and realize that there are no coincidences and that the Law of Attraction is drawing all of our experiences into our lives.

The world we think of as outside of us, the "physical" reality, is actually a projection of our belief systems and our feelings and emotions.   Even when we are not conscious of what we believe or what we are feeling in a given moment, it is influencing not only what we experience, but also how we interpret any experience.  Then we take that interpretation and call it "reality."

Everything we each see, hear, feel, touch, smell, and experience is a reflection of what is within us.  We create our own reality.  We do this consciously and unconsciously.

If this is true, then wouldn't it be wonderful to take conscious control and create only that which we choose to have in our experience?

To take charge of our lives, we have to go within and become intensely honest with ourselves about ourselves.   When we start accepting that whatever comes to us comes because we have attracted it with our thoughts, beliefs, and feelings, we can take charge of our lives by taking charge of our thoughts, beliefs, and feelings.

Usually, we want to "fix" other people and the outside world.  But, truly, we cannot change anyone but our self.  If you are unhappy with the behavior of another and you try to get that person to change, you are likely to be in for a struggle you cannot win.

Are you at war within yourself?  Do you feel peaceful when you think of conflicts in the world?  Do you want to forgive or to take revenge?  If you feel conflict, you are contributing to the conflict. 

Do you love yourself?  Jesus is quoted as saying, "Love thy neighbor as thyself."  If you don't love yourself, how will you love anyone else?

Do you honor and respect yourself?  Until you do, you will not truly honor and respect anyone else.

What are your priorities?  Do you actually live by those priorities?  Do you expect everyone else to share your priorities?

Do you put convenience above the environment when making practical decisions?  For example, do you rearrange the natural world (trees, flowers, earth) without thinking about the impact on the environment?  

Are you "walking your talk"?

Have you ever noticed how there may be someone in your life who makes you "crazy" or angry or whom you just can't stand.  Think - what is it about that person that push your buttons.  Does he or she remind you of yourself?  Be honest, now.  Do you now or have you ever done similar things? 

If you are intensely honest with yourself, you will probably discover that the very characteristics and/or behaviors of this individual which upset you the most are also your own.  You can, of course, deny that there is any truth in this.  However, I have seen the pattern in my own life over and over again.  Even if this individual leaves my life (whether it's someone at work or at home or at the barn), someone else with the same annoying characteristics or behaviors will soon show up in another area of my life.  Since I cannot change anyone else, I must resolve the issue within myself.  Once I do that, people reflecting these will disappear from my life or just stop being that way.

Resolving the issue is not easy.  Here's what I'm working on right now.  I have two female cats who have lived with me for the last four and a half years.  One is Violet, a blue-point Siamese.  She is very sensitive, demanding, controlling, fast-paced, intense, and very, very smart.  She knows how to get what she wants from me.  I am completely wrapped around her paw.   Sakkara, on the other hand, is patient, sweet, slower-paced, and very laid-back.  Each of these beings has some characteristics which she shares with me, and others that are different so that I can choose to use them as a model for new behavior.  This also includes areas of health and even physical appearance.

I recently rescued a male kitten who was dumped in the area where I live last fall.  It was evident to me that he didn't know how to hunt, since I discovered him eating bird seed under my bird feeder.  It took 6 months to catch him, but now he's indoors, living in an upstairs room - his safety zone.  I call him Sandy.

Violet and Sakkara both were opposed to having Sandy stay here, but I felt very strongly from the moment I saw him that he's supposed to be here.   I have been determined to allow him to stay.  However, that means he has to be integrated with the two female cats, neither of whom was enthusiastic about the prospect.  Sakkara will probably go along with keeping him if Violet accepts, but Violet has been strongly resistant to the prospect.

Sandy has been in the house now for 3 months, and Violet shows only small signs of accepting his presence.  Although no one has injured anyone else during their interactions, which are filled with hissing, screaming on occasion, and lots of mad running back and forth, only the smallest amount of progress towards "peaceable kingdom" has been made.

When I looked at this situation as external to me, I saw Violet as the problem, as uncooperative and defiant.  Of course, this didn't please her at all, and made her even more resistant and upset.

When I asked myself, "How does this situation reflect aspects of my inner self?" I discovered that the male and female energies within me do not readily accept each other or work together cooperatively.  They don't trust each other.  Each sees the other only negatively and does not find anything positive about the other.  I made a list of how each sees the other, and was amazed at what I discovered.  Not only did it parallel Violet and Sandy's interactions, attitudes, and feelings, but also reminded me of how I saw my own parents, the models for "yin and yang" within me while I was growing up.  Of course, on a deeper level, I recognize that how I saw my parents is also a reflection of my own inner stuff, but we won't go there today.

So to "walk my talk", to get the result I want, i.e., a peaceful household with Violet, Sakkara, and Sandy all lying together grooming each other lovingly, I need to resolve the conflict between the yin and yang within myself.  This kind of work takes time, courage, and determination, but I can already feel a shift in the cats as I make the decision to address this and begin exploring my inner belief systems that they are so generously reflecting for me.

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