"While I'm Away..."
by Nedda Wittels
November 10, 2007
are two tried and
to help you and your animals while you travel.
Does your cat
ignore you for the first 24 hours after you return from a trip? Does your dog
or bird stop eating while you are gone? Do animals that normally get along
begin to fight? Do they start to get upset when your suitcase comes out? Do
you worry about them when you have to travel?
It does not take
telepathy for our animal friends to notice that a suitcase has been pulled from
the closet. They know this means something is about to happen that affects
their lives, but they don’t know what to expect each time.
expectations helps reduce stress for everyone. Here’s how to make things easier
for yourself and your animals.
While you may not
believe that you are telepathic, you can still communicate with your animals
about your trip. If you think your animals may have questions, ask an Animal
Communicator to help you with this conversation.
The animals are all
telepathic, so if you choose to do this yourself, use mental pictures and
take the time to fill in details.
Be physically present with
the animal, sitting down if appropriate.
Close your eyes for a moment,
take 3 deep breaths, and tell yourself to relax as you exhale.
Get the animal’s attention by
saying the animal’s name.
Just as you would tell a
spouse or partner about a trip you are taking, tell your animal
friends. Include details and use mental pictures or images to help
get the message across.
Tell them you are going
away and the purpose of your trip.
Animals care about us and want us to take care of ourselves. When
you explain why you are taking a trip, you can say:
going to go on a vacation where I cannot take you. I need to
rest and relax and have no responsibilities for a short time.
Unfortunately, there is no way you can come along.” Hold a
picture in your mind of the place you are planning to visit.
have to take a trip for my job. While I’m away, I’ll be
working.” Hold a picture in your mind of you at work.
Tell them when you are
leaving and when you are returning
Animals understand concepts
of time. They know what a day/night cycle is. They also understand
human concepts of a week. Animals who live outside understand moon
cycles. You might say, “Today is Wednesday. I’m leaving in two
days, on Friday morning, and I will be back 4 days after that, on
Tell them who is going to
take care of them. You can say,
KENNEL: “You will be
staying at the same kennel you stayed at last time. Remember
what a good time you had?” Have a picture in your mind of what
the place looked like, followed by an image of a person at that
place whom your animal really liked. (Make sure this person is
still working there if you tell them to expect so see that
person.) Remind them about the activities there that they like.
STAYING WITH FRIENDS or
FAMILY: “You’ll be staying at [insert person’s name] home.
You’ll get to play with [insert person’s and/or animal’s name(s).”
Fill in more details if you have them.
PET or HOUSE SITTER
“[person’s name] is going to [stay here] or [come ___ (fill in
number) of times a day] to take of you.”
Tell them more details about their care while you are
Reassure the animals that
they will be fed their normal food, supplements, and medicine.
Tell them what the
caretaker will do: groom them, take them for a walk, play with
them, clean their cage or litter box, whatever. You can say:
“I’ll make sure you have your own food, bed, and toys.”
Tell them you will miss
them and be sending them love from your heart while you are gone.
Each day while
traveling, you can communicate with your animal friends, sending love,
reassurance, and updates (mental postcards) about your trip. You will probably
find this is a relaxing moment for yourself. Your animals will appreciate your
Lie on a bed
or sit comfortably in a chair or cross legged.
Take 3 deep
breaths, and on each exhalation, imagine any stress you are feeling is
flowing out with your breath.
normally, and pay attention to your breath, watch it going in and out for a
minute or two.
allow, imagine you are in your heart center (a space in the middle of your
Just be in
your heart center and connect with the Unconditional Love that lives there
in unlimited quantities.
allow, imagine your animal friend in your heart center with you.
Say hello to
him/her and imagine yourself holding them as if you were actually physically
stroking or petting or grooming them for as long as you wish.
Talk to your
animal friend, just as if you were with them. Tell them about your day.
Tell them how much you love and miss them. Remind them you will be home in
___ (fill in number) of days. Tell them you will “visit” them again
When clients of
mine have used these techniques, they have consistently reported success.
Kathy has many
birds and a regular helper to take care of them. While visiting Hawaii, her
helper called to say that Pidge, a rescued wild pigeon, had stopped eating.
Kathy asked me what to do. When birds stop eating they can sicken and die very
quickly. I gave Kathy the “While Traveling” instructions, which Kathy
immediately began to use. Kathy’s helper saw an immediately change in Pidge the
very first time Kathy used the technique: Pidge became more relaxed and began
to eat. Everyone was relieved and Kathy was able to enjoy the rest of her trip
while “visiting” Pidge daily.
went on a 3-day weekend with a friend, her cat, Marie, would ignore her for 24
hours after she returned. I suggested Elaine follow the instructions for
“Before You Leave”, telling Marie where she was going and with whom, when she
would leave and return, and about Marie’s care while Elaine was gone. When
Elaine tried this, for the first time ever, Marie didn’t “scold” Elaine when she
returned. Instead the cat greeted Elaine as if she had been gone only a few
hours, rubbed against her legs, sat in her lap during the evening, and slept
with her in bed that night, all of which was their normal routine.
Annette had been
desensitizing Skip, her rescued German Shepherd, to get used to the idea that
staying at a kennel can be fun and is not abandonment. Still, Skip was having a
difficult time with it, and Annette had a trip to take where the dog couldn’t
go. I suggested to Annette that she use both the “Before You Leave” and “While
Traveling” techniques, which Annette was willing to do. As a result, she now
has a dog whose separation anxiety is dramatically reduced and Annette is able
to go away whenever she needs to travel.
If you have to be
away on a trip, give these methods a try. You may find that not only are your
animals feeling better about your being away, but you, yourself, may feel more
comfortable with the idea of traveling and leaving your animal family members at
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